The greatest confidence you can have is the confidence to choose yourself.
That’s something I didn’t fully understand 30 years ago.
Who I Was Then
At 26, I lacked confidence. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do with my life. I didn’t think I was pretty enough or smart enough. I was afraid to speak up, to stand firm, or to fight for what was rightfully mine.
Like many women, I put everyone else’s wants and needs before my own. I made quiet sacrifices. I hid behind fear.
What Changed
Over time, wisdom grew.
I grew tired of being afraid.
I began to realize that having family and friends didn’t mean sacrificing myself. That boundaries weren’t selfish—they were healthy and necessary. I learned that I am uniquely beautiful and intelligent. Strong. Fearless. Worthy of being loved correctly.
Speaking up for myself and believing in myself gave me power.
Faith, Growth, and Voice
My faith played a significant role in that transformation. Trusting that God was watching over me and guiding my steps gave me the courage to move forward—even when the path wasn’t clear.
Confidence didn’t arrive all at once. It was built slowly, through choices. Through moments of discomfort. Through learning to honor my voice.
What Mid-Life Has Taught Me
Mid-life has taught me that confidence isn’t about having everything figured out. It’s about clarity. It’s about choosing yourself—again and again—even when it feels uncomfortable.
It’s never too late to find your voice.
It’s never too late to pursue your dreams.
And you deserve to be happy.
Choosing yourself is not selfish.
It’s courageous.
